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Here’s Why Make-Up Sex Is Good For Your Relationship

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Even the happiest couples have been known to fight occasionally. Sometimes it’s a minor spat over dirty dishes; on worse days, a blowout might leave you giving each other the silent treatment until one of you initiates a truce. While apologies are important when they’re owed, a heated round of makeup sex is one thousand times more fun. A peace-making roll in the hay is certainly the hottest way to smooth things over, but it is it always the best move for your relationship? Here, two experts weigh in on the benefits of makeup sex—and when it can actually damage your bond in the long term.

Why is make-up sex good for you?

Once you and your partner are both feeling that heightened physiological response to your clash, that anger can turn into sexual tension fast.

Fleming compares the quickened libido response to a car’s acceleration speed. Most women she’s worked with “start at a zero to ten, but if your body’s already physiologically aroused, you’re already at a 60. From my experience, from there your body’s only going to be more responsive.” Next thing you know, you’re both careening toward Sex-town at a breakneck pace.

What’s the downside to make-up sex?

Before you have makeup sex, you actually need to make up for real. That means settling the fight with words, instead of immediately going from yelling to tearing off each other’s clothes.

“What can be unhealthy about makeup sex is if it’s a way of putting things on the back burner, tabling whatever brought them into conflict in the first place,” Fleming says. It doesn’t have to be an hours-long conversation that deflates your desire, but you do need to find an understanding with each other.

Some couples get so addicted to the rush of makeup sex, they begin to fall back on the dynamic as a way to stay passionate. “If the frequency of fighting escalates and fighting becomes the only way couples feel connection, it’s most likely turned into a toxic cycle,” Morse warns. “Also, if couples are using makeup sex as a way to avoid talking about issues altogether—or to apologize for repeated bad behavior—this is another indicator of a devastating pattern.”

Is there a right way to have make-up then?

In a healthy relationship, the *occasional* makeup sex is a great way to reconnect, but it should never replace a discussion about your conflict.

“You’ll know you’re doing it right if you’ve truly communicated to work through your issues in a healthy way,” says Morse. “Afterward, you feel more relaxed, the tension from the fight has fallen away, and now your intimacy is enhanced.”

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HELP! My Husband Doesn’t Suck My Nipples During S*x anymore

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I am so depressed writing this to you, I have just been married for a year and our sxual life seems like it is crumbling. My husband suddenly stopped having sx with me, even on the days he will, he will just put his d*ck inside me and cum.

No romance, no foreplay, everything is just so bland. And I enjoy adventure in bed. I have tried so many times to ask him why the sudden change in his behaviour towards me, he said nothing that he is only tired.

I am s*xually frustrated, I don’t get turned on anymore, he doesn’t even suck my nipples when he is making love to me. What will I do, I am tired of enduring.

I am not even asking for much, just sx, ordinary sx he can’t offer, what if I start demanding for something very difficult, what will he do? What is the best approach to handle this, because I have just reconnected with my ex, I don’t want to do something stupid. 

The annoying thing is he enjoys s*x while we were dating, and the sudden change in his behaviour is very suspicious, I even think he is cheating. I am tired. 

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